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The festive period is often seen as a special time of celebration, bringing family and friends together. However, it can also be a time of increased stress and anxiety, particularly when the pandemic is still affecting us all. A diagnosis of cancer is likely to make what is already an emotional time of year, more challenging.
The reflective nature of the festive period can act as a stark reminder of all that has changed in life, which often after a cancer diagnosis, can be everything. It is normal to feel a wide range of emotions, from denial to anger to sadness. Balancing worry and hope can be difficult when life is filled with uncertainty.
Christmas is also a time filled with expectation and a greater focus on those around us. For those affected by cancer, this brings with it a particular set of challenges. You might be too tired to engage in conversations. If you are going through treatment, you might be feeling sick or you might have lost your appetite. If your mood is low, you might not want to be around others and joining in the celebrations might just be too difficult at this time.
Below are some suggestions for you and your loved ones to help you prepare for the festive period:
- Plan ahead. Talk to your loved one/family. Ask them what kind of day they would like to have. Adjust your expectations. This way you can discuss openly what you are able to manage and think about where you might need help.
- Keep it simple. Make life easier for yourself. Consider asking another family member to host festivities this year. Be flexible with your food. This is often a period of indulgence and perhaps, at this moment in time, you are not enjoying certain types of food or do not feel able to eat big portions. Allow yourself/your loved one a few options for Christmas dinner and be mindful of portion sizes.
- Allow for new traditions. Make space for new memories. If there are traditions that no longer feel right or are just not possible this year, consider creating new ones. Christmas does not always have to look the same for it to be as meaningful and memorable.
- Listen to your body. Take time to rest. This time of year can be particularly exhausting. This might add to the fatigue you/your loved one might be already experiencing. You are likely to have good days and less good days. Do things at your own pace and prioritise down time.
- Be present. In times of uncertainty, it is difficult not to focus on “what if” type scenarios. Sometimes these thoughts can add to your anxiety. we’ve attached a link here to some techniques that can help you shift your awareness to the here and now.
- Look after yourself. Put your needs first. Whether you have been recently diagnosed, are currently undergoing treatment, have finished treatment, or have experienced a bereavement, it is important that you allow yourself time to adjust. Be gentle with yourself and your loved ones. Give yourselves permission to celebrate the best way you can.
